For our headers I recommend the REMFLEX gaskets. For 1 5/8" primary tubes - part # 2042. For 1 3/4" primary tubes - part # 2007. The 2007 can also be used for 1 7/8" and 2" primary tubes but will need to be trimmed to match the larger ports.
The Felpro gaskets work fine as well. Part # FEL-1470.
Regarding header flanges, surfacing, etc. The process used in videos above works fine for headers which have the primary tubes welded inside the header flanges as those headers are. For our headers, we bring the primary tubes through the header flange and weld to the face of the flange. We then machine the welds down to the face of the flange but we do NOT remove the weld as it is the sealing surface for the headers. On our stainless headers, we go over each weld an additional time with the tig torch. I include an install sheet with every set of headers I ship. It describes the header flanges having a slight warp from the laser cutting and heating/shaping and welding process. For our headers, do not machine surface the face of the flange to flatten it!!! This will break through the sealing weld and absolutely guarantee the headers will leak. The method for installing our headers is starting all bolts by hand and then using the following sequence to tighten each: Inside left, inside right, middle left, middle right, outside left, outside right. Alternate using this sequence as you would when tightening lug nuts on your wheels. This will lay the header flange flat to the head from the inside outwards. I have been using and recommending this sequence for almost 23 years without issues.
I think Gerry (95 wagon) was one of my first customers for a set of mild steel TRI-Y headers. Seems like one of his flanges had almost a 1/4" warp to it from one end to the other and he agreed to follow the sequence I suggested and was pleasantly surprised to have the flange lay flat. That was probably 22 years ago so forgive me if my memory isn't 100% accurate.