When you do steps 1,2,&3, do you get a chirp at all??
If so, then the valet button is working. 1 short chirp means you can continue w/ steps 4 and on.....
I long chirp means you have blocked transmitter programming with the BitWriter......... plug it in, and turn off the blocking. Then start whole process over.
If not then the valet button is not working, replace and try again.
Maybe I should be asking........ has the alarm ever worked completely properly??? Or is this a new install and you were changing the programming, and lost them????